Life of Liz

I miss company Christmas parties!

In Christmas, Out of the Comfort Zone, Red Pill on December 9, 2012 at 1:35 pm

I think one of the fall-outs from the Great Recession is the loss of the lavish, over the top company Christmas party.  And while I understand that many (our family included) would much prefer the company give a Christmas bonus so we could better afford the years must have’s for our kiddos – I still long for the splendor of those events.   (FYI, the party is gone but an ‘in-hand’ gift still hasn’t materialized!).

These company Christmas parties came at a good time for our family – Henry and I were very often struggling to make ends meet and we were probably arguing ‘round the clock and then adding in 5-6 kids (can’t truly remember, maybe all 7?) to manage.

So the opportunity to experience something truly outside of the norm was a BIG deal.  There is nothing like kissing the kids (+ messy house and all) goodbye and entering the world of make believe!!

Henry’s career has landed him at a few different places over the years – but it was one firm in particular that did an extremely nice job of celebrating and creating memorable events.

This firm liked to celebrate at unique places that you’ not expect to use as a party place … There was the one at the museum – that was pretty cool; you could wander between artifacts and bones while sipping aged Napa Valley vino.  And then there was the one at an aquarium, which was visually beautiful to behold as the decorations bounced off the glass walled tanks (an actual shark was being housed that year!).  My favorite was likely the party held at San Francisco city hall.  When you arrived at this one, Willie Brown was at the top of a long stair case (covered in greenery and lights) welcoming everyone to his humble abode.  willie

Yes, I miss the company Christmas Party!

I’d bug Henry (these were pre Dd days, so nag and/or harass are probably closer to the truth) until he shared the invitation with me.

When I knew the theme, I could commence shopping for the perfect outfit that would convey confidence and style.   Fingers and toes were done.  I’d have my hair trimmed and the color touched up.  I have always appreciated how handsome Henry fills out a tux so this is a double bonus!!
Ready to party …!  The food was plentiful and delicious; the alcohol flowed freely and the decorations were just show stopping.

But, honestly – even though I loved the pomp and circumstance of the company party, the thing I enjoyed the most was watching Henry interact in HIS world and instinctively I would know this was a part of Henry’s life that existed completely without my help and I was a guest that night in his world.

And then it would happen … I’d catch a glimpse of the man I had married.

That man was confident, charming and respected among his peers. balck

Was it the realization of how successful my man was at what he does or was I realizing that I had contributed nothing (absolutely nothing) to his professional success and yet he was successful?

Anyhow, that one night would always remind me of who Henry really was and why I could never say no to him in any meaningful way.

But alas, the economy tanked and my beloved Christmas party was chopped.  No more anticipation for the event local, no more shopping for the perfect dress, no more dancing til dawn at someone else’ expense.  Nope, all gone. Fortunately though I no longer require all of those trappings in order to see Henry as the confident, charming man I married 20 years ago on a daily basis.  In that respect, it’s OK the party’s over.

  1. It’s good to see them on their own territory. But it’s even better to appreciate the here and now. Hugs, Ami

  2. Great tribute to the man you married. Good for you.

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